You’re allowed to be selfish sometimes.

Have you ever felt like you’ll explode if someone asks you for one more marshmallow? Have you ever cried in the shower, wondering why you’re such a failure at this whole parenting thing? Have you ever literally cried over spilled milk?

If you’re a mom, you probably have. Every mom can relate; we all have days where we just don’t think we can do all the things we need to do. But then we count to ten, dry our tears, and try all over again to be the best mom we can be.

Are you looking for new ways to be a better mom? We promise, you’re going to like this advice, so read on!

Take some time for yourself will help you be a better mom.

The job of being a mom never stops. You don’t get to clock out at the end of the day and zone out watching TV. Inevitably, somebody needs a drink of water or falls out of bed and needs a hug.

Because of this, taking time for yourself can feel selfish. You always have to be available, and if you aren’t giving your kids 110%, you’re failing.

This is simply not true!

It’s hard to take care of other people effectively if you don’t focus on yourself first. Self-care needs to be high on your priority list. When your cup is running over, you can more effectively pour into someone else’s.

Don’t believe us? Here are several reasons why self-care should be a top priority.

1. Your kids learn from what you do, not what you say.

How do you teach your kids to eat right, drink lots of water, and get plenty of exercise? By beginning to model those things yourself and being kind to yourself when you have off days. Kids are far more impacted by what you do than by what you say. By watching you persevere toward your health goals despite setbacks and challenges, they’ll want to emulate healthy eating and determination themselves.

Enjoy frequent glasses of water and drop in a lemon wedge or cucumber slice if you don’t like the taste of plain water. Serve yourself a delicious green salad for lunch and invite your kids to partake in it with you.

Sneak in an exercise sesh in the morning before your kids get up or invite them to join you for a dance party to get the wiggles out. You might be surprised how much exercise you can get doing simple activities or just being silly with your kids. Then, you can feel good about both you and your kids getting the exercise you need.

2. You can’t care for your kids if you’re sick … or worse.

The number one killer of women in the U.S. is heart disease. Approximately one in five female deaths are linked to heart disease. But you can fortify yourself against heart disease and even keep colds, the flu, and other diseases at bay by maintaining healthy habits.

The CDC recommends that adults get 150 minutes of moderate to vigorous exercise each week to protect against heart disease. That doesn’t have to happen all at once. You can break it up into 30-minute or one-hour sessions throughout the week.

A healthy diet full of leafy greens, whole grains, little sugar, and low salt will also help to keep this silent killer at bay. Plus, getting exercise and eating a healthy diet like this will also give you more energy, improve your focus, and boost your immune system, meaning fewer sick days overall for you and a greater ability to care for your family the way you want to.

Finally, don’t be lax about your health checkups. Did you know that gum disease has been linked to heart disease as well? Make sure to take some time and visit your dentist twice a year as part of your self-care routine. Dental health is integral to a long, healthy life.

3. Anxiety kills your empathy.

Anxiety and stress negatively affect your ability to empathize with other people, which is a big part of a mother’s job. When you’re stressed and feeling empty, it’s hard to calmly sit down and be a sounding board for others.

Realize you can’t be Supermom. When you take the time to fill up your own emotional bank and practice self-care, you’ll actually be more able to empathize with your kids when they’re experiencing problems they want to talk about.

Self-Care Ideas for Busy Moms

Struggling to find time for self-care activities? When life gets busy, it can be hard to make self-care a priority, even when you understand how important it is. Here are a few quick ideas that don’t take too much time and can really go a long way.

  • Power nap: Just 10 to 20 minutes is enough to make you feel more refreshed.
  • Take a bath: Ask your partner or another adult for help with the kids one night a week and enjoy a relaxing bath rather than a hurried shower.
  • Do a five-minute yoga routine to help you wind down for bed.
  • Have a cup of non-caffeinated tea to help you sleep.

Make self-care a priority!

We understand how easy it is to let your health and well-being slide when you’re so focused on your family. We hope this article has been a good reminder of how important it is to make yourself a priority. You can offer your family far more when you focus on taking care of yourself first.